Special Entry for Mr. Husband.

Saya jarang terpanggil untuk menulis tentang suami saya. Kali ni ya, ada ruang dan masa untuk bercerita mengenai beliau.

Those who know me tahu yg suami saya adalah my childhood friend. We have known each other since like..forever!! To cut it short, after years tak berjumpa, we met again after few telephone conversation and decided to be a couple. Just after a few months of our relationship, my mom passed away. It was the most hurtful and the hardest moment in my life. ( in fact for the whole family.) Since that, our relationship has become stronger, he is my new shoulder to cry on. We tied the knot after 3 years of relationship and it was the happiest moment in my life.

I like my baju nikah very much.

We are two different people in a sense of lifestyle and thinking. My husband is so much a kampung boy and so do I. But since i went to different places during my secondary school and uni, and also met different kind of people, being exposed to different kind of culture, so I'll get to be different from him. While him on the other hand, has been exposed to his family bussiness, family rituals and everything is just evolved around the family thus that makes him kinda static. I am such a planner, i love to organize things and want things to be fully organize. While he is a last minute man. He doesn't like to plan things and end up make things worse. Usually, we will end up with an argument. Hahaha. My husband is also a people's person. He mingles with the society for all the makciks-atuk-nenek-budak-anak dara-, everyone. Unlike me. I'm quite a cold person. He loves to attend kenduri and he involved in berzanji group.

berzanji masa kenduri aqiqah Sarah.

Papa and Sarah.

To be honest, my husband is not a demanding person, he does not know how to dress up in branded clothes or to have a fine dining (seriously he never eats pizza/pasta when we first got together) or even to shop for himself. That explains why our first date was at gerai mamak aje. His shopping heaven is 'bundle' and he loves RM5 watch that lasts for 3 months. Jimat, he said. While me, on the other hands is vice versa. I love everything in the world as long as i can afford it. I may or have the opportunity to fulfill my desire, afterall i am a working lady. But i am not a shopaholic also, i planned my shopping and also my saving.

There are some people asked me why i chose him. He does not have the same level of education as mine (which some of you people, may put it as a top criteria) and he does not hold a 9 to 5 job. The answer is simple, because it's my fate. and I believe Allah has chose the right person to guide me. Insyaallah. Although he does not hold a secure job, insyallah rezeki itu ada di mana-mana. We do not know our future but we can work harder towards a better life.

After one month we got married, he replace his car with the Old red BMW and we moved out from my daddy's house to our own. He really likes his new(second hand) car but I don't. Because it consume more fuel and higher maintenance. Afterall, I got one so why need another car? The house is actually belongs to my PIL. My PIL has lots of rental houses with total accumulated 30++ houses in this area. So they reserved a few houses for their 8 child. Although it is small, we are very fortunate and thankful for not having to pay for the rental at all. My house is just a few steps away from my PIL's and to me that is hard. At first i felt very annoyed when they keep asking us where we are headed for, Beli apa? Buat apa? and their endless kenduri is driving me nuts!! They likes to chit-chat, and kunjung mengunjung ke rumah orang tapi saya suka memerap kat rumah, lagi-lagi sejak ada streamyx ni. I still feel the same thing now but i just have to bear with it. Afterall, i am a family member so i have no choice haha. Lama-lama dah biasa, tak kisah dah. Saya memerap kat rumah pun mereka dah tak hairan.. However, we are still looking forward for our own house in a near future.

Speaking of a job, I hold an office, 9 to 5 job while he has a ridiculous working hours. He works 7 days a week, no holidays as he is a self employed. No work, no money maa.. The only holiday is during hari raya and Gong Xi Fa Chai just because everybody takes a holiday too and no bussiness at that time. So, suami saya ni kerja apa? He is a pekebun, seorang bos, seorang kuli dsbg. Titik. Am i ashamed of his job? NOT at all.. He has his own meniaga spot at pasar borong selayang. Actually, it runs through the family. Last time it was his father's. Yes, he sells vegetables. He has his own customer and in fact, he supplied those veggies to F*M* that some of you might bought it from T*SC* or G*I*NT. Due to this, it is very much easier to eat anything because everything can be found at Pasar Borong right? I just had to order, "Papa, mama nak makan ketam, nak makan buah itu, nak makan ini.. "Alhamdulillah, he is capable enough untuk menyara kami bertiga. Cukuplah untuk makan-pakai, saving, sesekali outing. Alhamdulillah.

But last October he made up his mind. He wants to quit 'berniaga' as he wants to do something new. He passed the berniaga thingy to his brother as he wants to work the reserved agricaltural land out and to start his own bussines from zero. Berbudi pada tanah.. I was reluctant at first, afraid that it won't be success but after he gave me an assurance, i agreed. It took a few months to do some research on the net too (with my guidance, of course!as he is not an IT savvy,) and to get guidance from his (experienced) father. After a few discussion and advices, he is ready to start it but there is one BIG problem. The capital. Where to get it? from our savings? bank loans or loan sharks?? Problems..problems.. decision..decision..

Finally, he made one.I think he made a very manly, wisest decision for not giving up our savings. Instead, he sell off his car. He was reluctant at first and feel very sad but he has no choice. . I feel sad too because i really like the car excluding the fuel price, higher maintenance. But it is okay, we still have my car right? Although it is smaller, tapi cukuplah untuk kami bertiga buat masa ni.

So, here. He trade his car

It's okay papa, we can get better than this someday..


for this.

and this.

and more and more of it..

This is only the first phase and also the first step of the projects. There is like 3 more phase which insyallah akan diusahakan and 10 more steps?? Ni baru membajak, nanti nak buat batas, buat pagar, membaja..etc..etc..But insyaallah, by the end of the year, bila tanaman tu dah 'cukup haul' boleh lah 'merasa' hasilnya. You can do it papa. I am your no 1 fan. supporter.

At the moment, no more acara mengukur shopping mall every weekend as he is busy with this. I have to bear with it... Don't asked me what are my weekend plans because i will much do the same, staying at home.

So, this is me, proudly married to my petani husband, despite all the differences and arguments, we are still looking forward to grow old together and lead a better and happy future.

I Love you husband. You Can Do It.